A mother's womb

It is said the ultimate success of a woman lies in her motherhood, for which the nature has created her. When a child is born it gives joy to the mother not only because this is her creation (partial though :P) but also because she has nurtured it by feeding it internally for 9 months. The joy comes from the fact that that little creation of her is so much dependent on her, when the baby wakes up its eyes desperately search for the mother, the only person with whom it feels secured with. The joy comes when the child sees the mother it smiles and that smile has no hidden agenda, no selfish motive, the smile is only because the child is seeing the mother. When the child tries to grab the mother's fingers with its tiny fingers or touches her neck with its little fingers that gives the mother an out of the world happiness, which has no comparison. The child is dependent on the mother till the time it can walk on its own. As the child grows up, the dependency decreases and it enters in its own world. The mother, her functions end at that point and to some extent she feels left out or of less importance, though she tries hard to be the strength of pillar for her child and tries to navigate the child, then the fight starts between the teenager and the mother. Again the dependency role arises when the child has to take important career decisions, there negotiation happens. Another dependency arises when its time for the child to choose a life partner. The mother wants to ensure that the child gets the utmost happiness for the rest of its life. So she sets certain parameters as per her knowledge and prior experience and learning so that the new person in the child's life gives it peace and happiness. Till now the story seemed one track and predictable. Now here comes the twist. When the child marries lets see the 2 scenarios:

For a girl child:
Though it is the mother who had chosen the groom or had approve of the groom, she cannot take the fact that the child is no longer staying with her. So subconsciously she feels bad about it and again try to act as pillar of strength for her daughter. Result is not very soothing though: she tries to influence her daughter in her family decision which might not act in the daughter's favor. As a result of which family drama starts.

For a male child:
Generally it is the mother whose approval is a must in choosing a bride because as per convention, the bride in the one who comes and joins the family as a new member. Now when she sees ever day that her creation, her beloved son is so much attached to an unknown new person, subconsciously she cannot take it and starts fighting- the famous sas bahu fight, the kahani ghar ghar ki fights.

By the law of nature a female gives more importance to relationships, bonding. Her contribution to a relation is much more than her male counterpart. Naturally, because she gives so much inputs, or sacrifice so much for the relation, expectations arise.  This is where problem starts and trp of daily soaps increases. The concept of father- in -law fighting with his daughter -in -law has not yet gained popularity. But a married man having multiple extra marital affairs is a common concept. This is because just as by law of nature a female is more inclined to analyse or contribute to interpersonal relationships, men tend to give more importance to satisfy the physical need and they tend to be die hard supporter of the concept of variety- the more the merrier. This is not to typify men or women but the general trend is this only. Men neither contribute more in any relation nor do they support the family drama. That's why it is much easier to make peace with a guy. That's why after many years of marriage men stop saying what they want and they listen silently what their woman has to say. The flip side of this is just because men do not want quarrel they follow inside the house whatever the woman of the house wants(mom when he is unmarried and wife after marriage), but once the man comes out of the house, he does exactly what he feels like which might bring trouble to the women's lives. And this is how the cycle continues.
So, the bottom line is not to get too much involved in any relation and neither it is good to be too much submissive to any human because all these bring nothing else except trouble in many people's lives including our ownselves.