The 2 S - Saree & Sacrifice



Sacrifice is a very popular concept in India specially if it is done by a woman. Wife sacrificying her career for husband - wife becomes an idol, husband sacrifying his career for wife - husband is considered not a man enough; as if sacrifice is women's proprietary right.

Saree is considered to be the purest form of dress even though it is not enough to cover the entire body. Saree is traditional and an expression of elegancy. Hence in most communities saree is worn during marriage, also newly weds are expected to wear saree at least few days post marriage. Strangly dhoti for men couldnt reach the Saree level. Dhotis are not normally worn by men post marriage, though sometimes dhotis are worn during pujas but mostly by the priest who wears it as part of his profession. Dhotis are not compulsion for men post marriage because of the simple reason that dhotis are neither convenient nor comfortable for daily use. Saree system on the other hand has been popularized by women who wear them and the women who set the rule that this should be worn as an expression of elegant feminisim.

Also Sacrifice is closely linked with the Saree system as if you wear Saree 24hours you are bound to sweat a lot and be uncomfortable since with Saree you have to wear several other things which help you to cover your body parts. So even in the world where you can get comfort by wearing far more simple clothes you choose to wear Saree simply because it is considered sober as per popular belief. The actual truth is Saree is just a dress which allows you to sacrifice your comfort level, hence its popular.
While I am not against Saree I also belief dress should be worn as per ocassion, I am also a strong supporter of the fact that just because of popular belief you shouldnt associate a dress with dignity. Hence wearing a Saree shouldnt be compulsion,rather it should be a choice of the individual who wears it.

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