All About Men

Irrespective of language there are few common things that you would find in all Indian men:
1. “All” guys flirt with “all” girls. Be it your bf flirting with other girls or others’ bfs flirting with you. It’s upto you to what extent you will allow your man to do that or to what extent you will enjoy flirting.
2. Until and unless a guy tells explicitly that he loves you do not be under the assumption that he has feelings for you. Let the guy tell you that he loves you,let him tell you those 3 magical words then only get involved emotionally.
3. For a guy yes means a yes and no means a no. Grey areas do not exist in their mind but in their activity they do exist; this is because a guy does not want to hurt any girl in any way. Its easy for a girl to say shut up or to block a guy, but for a guy it is not. They are far more well behaved than us in that way.
4. It is very difficult to understand if a guy actually loves a girl or not. Coz they go for relation mostly not on the basis of feelings but on the basis of feasibility. If all the aspects are feasible then they go for a relation. So you have to choose what you want, relationship with feeling or relationship without feeling.
5. In this era of wats app it is very easy to connect, connect with multiple people. So, just bcoz the guy is chatting with you for the entire day does not mean that he is in love with you. He likes talking with you so he is talking, simple. or may be he likes the fact that throughout the day you are responding to his pings, so he is continuing the chat. He can do the same thing with 10 other girls at the same time, after all it is wats app, and not sms where there is a number constraint. So no need to think that the guy is into you. Relax!
6. Chatting in fb or wats app does not mean that you are dating- girls often make these mistake and end up with a sad story. Let that guy ask you for a date, let him tell you that he wants a to have a relationship with you, else trust me chatting is not dating, no matter how much flirty the conversation is.
7. Beware of abusive guys- be it verbal or physical. Just bcoz he is your bf/ husband, it doesnt mean that he can abuse you. There is a fine line between acting as a superior, being dominating and being abusive. Guys abuse coz it gives them a sense of superiority, it boosts their male ego. But without being abusive they can act superior, look out for those guys. Once an abusive will always be an abusive. Trust me nobody needs to adjust with an abusive man.
8. Many girls go to the extent of committing suicide just bcoz their man is dating other girls. Tell me why you do this? Are you sad about the fact that when you are not doing how can he do? Newtons 3rd law “To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction”- might be universal truth, but this is not applicable in this case :P :D . Or are you sad coz now his attention towards you is no more undivided? If you want your man back, then you also go for multiple dating- this will hurt his manhood as he will feel that he is not able to keep his woman interested in him anymore. If you do not want this kind of man, then just leave him. Simple.
Girls get hurt much more than their male counterparts bcoz girls think and assume too much. Only one advice - do not think, just enjoy the flow. Let time takes its own course.
In India percentage of female is less, thanks to female foeticide, thanks to our patriarchal society- which means chances of a girl getting a guy is much more :P . So, girls no need to be afraid of the fact that you would be alone at the end of the day or no need to compromise or tolerate an abusive guy, or deal with a womanizer. Real guys are there, the right guy is there waiting for you who also wants to be just as happy as you, who also wants to have a fairy tale love story, who also wants to have a princess and a happy ending. Just hold your patience and see the magic :)
P.S- Wrote from real life experience and first hand knowledge. You can trust me on these ;) . After all experience matters. Doesn’t so? :P

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